WHAT NOW?

Word just in, a college student stabs 19 year old girlfriend because she was cheating on him. With a girl. Wow! What has the world come to?

 It got me thinking, how do people deal with rejection and frustration and all the negative stuff thrown their way? Do they cope? Do they give up the fight? Do they just hang on forever? Do they keep grudges? Well, we all are different and so are the ways of dealing with things. “When we don’t deal with situations, they find a way of dealing with us.” –Joyce Mayer. Whether we notice it or not, we

This are the days seem to have 148hours. You all agree if you have ever had yourself in such a situation. Personally, I think getting over this thing has stages/phases. There’s the shock and anger, the denying, the dawn of truth, the crying and depression, and then it begins to fade. And you look back and laugh at yourself terribly. The ‘what was wrong with me’ phase. The sooner you go through all of them, the better. Moving on means you are a bigger person and you are stronger.

Boys, don’t disagree with me just yet. It’s different with the girls. We are a lot more emotional than you. That makes us more human I guess. Anyway, my point is that when misfortunes befall thee, you gotta stay strong. For yourself.  It could have been worse you know. But life gave you a soft cushion to land on, and you got to get your ass up and find a way out.

When life gives you lemons, you can choose to ask for tequila and salt, make lemonade, or gush it to the floor. It’s all about the choices at the end of the day. The fact that there’s so much to consider when dealing with it. Like if you get violent, you might get locked in (and boy am I scared of cells!!!) or do things you’ll regret. These things can even affect the rest of your lives. Like being locked up for years if you are lucky to escape manslaughter. Violence is not the answer and it’s not worth it you got to agree.

Life goes on and what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Life is about testing your strengths and elevating them. Your future awaits and the sad parts don’t last either.

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VIVA LA DIVA.

Even in this day and age women face discrimination and prejudice. Yet, women all over the world continue to work hard to make a difference to alter their lives and the lives of others.

I am all things women. Calm down, of course I’m straight, why is your brow raised? Get your mind off the gutter :D   I am fascinated when i see women coming on strong despite all the responsibilities assigned to them by default. The likes of being the one to run the house and manage the family among other nitty gritty things that appears almost inconspicuous. Not because it’s impossible but because they prove the world wrong.  It may look like nothing, but believe me, that thing is worth a medal.

Recently, I happened to listen to STL’s interview on radio and she said ‘I don’t look at myself as a female rapper, but as a rapper’. Then it suddenly hit me, that’s the problem we bring upon ourselves.  We struggle to reach the top and then we bring along the ‘female’ with the title we worked for. Female MC, female CEO, female doctor, female pilot/driver. No one ever heard of female classes/syllabus, female degrees or female skills.   

I don’t have a particular mentor but I’d like to shine my little spotlight on some women that I find worth the medal. I have to start from home, my mum, my aunt, my sisters and cousins and my girlfriends. Then in Kenya there is The late Waangari Maathai, Martha Karua, Carole Mandi, Beatrice Marshall, Gina Din-Kariuki, Wahu, MuthoniDQ, STL (of course) and Ajuma Naseyana. In Africa my medal and spotlight goes to Lira (S.A), Alek Wek (Sudan), Keko (UG) among others. The rest of the world holds obvious household names like Her Royal Highness Queen Elizabeth, Michelle Obama, Janice Dickinson (as bad as she is), Tyra Banks, Queen Latifah and Oprah among others.

Women’s day or not, I choose to celebrate all the women making a difference and those doing their thing in male dominated world. Yours truly, the proud feminist.

Given a chance I’d take a side job of being a therapist or psychiatrist/psychologist (whichever doesn’t involve thousand years in college and really huge books. I’d love to know how people think, why they do what they are doing even when they do not know it themselves.

Don’t you think it’s so much fun being able to tell almost exactly what is going on in people’s minds? Almost magical. Innit? I bet you have stumbled upon this phrase if you are on a social site or not too busy to notice but if you haven’t it says “Don’t you think it would be a better world if we could just Google what people felt and thought about us?” I’ll be more than thrilled the day I magically start hearing what people are thinking. Like Mel Gibson in ‘what women want’ But that will happen just when Santa exists and visit’s Africa. Well, let’s focus on what is attainable.

At some point in my high school life I was a peer counsellor and somehow I managed to give advice. Frequently. No, I didn’t have an office and no I wasn’t ‘little miss perfect’ but I could talk people into and out of some things. I couldn’t read minds but I bet being a woman, my guts helped in sensing and solving those problems. Somehow. Have you ever found how easy giving advice is, and you cannot follow the exact advice to save your soul from tears and teeth gnashing?

Well, that’s the world for us. I have had enough falls, troubles and mistakes to last me and my forthcoming lineages. It’s time i learnt. And helped people see the stumbles. Someone once made a joke: why would you repeat a mistake when there’s plenty waiting to be explored? Makes so much sense. After watching ‘necessary roughness’ I fell in love with Dr.Santino’s job. It feels great helping people out. For me at least. That’s when my desires to be a therapist came back.

P.S

I don’t believe in shouting at children or canning them unless it’s gone overboard. Teachers, parents and guardians should really work on talking to them. It’s a good thing when people get their goals straight from when they are really young. It helps people develop self-esteem and the world will be a better place. Don’t you think? Go out and preach if you agree. ;)