The Beast in Beauty

The world could have its own definition of beautiful and so does the media and each ethnic region of existence. One person could look at one and not even notice them but the same person could be a hottie before someone else. 

The way I see it, men are the bigger bullies in this case. Men will say nasty things about a woman just because she has a forehead or because she is dark-skinned or acne or whatever it could be that they want to use. Including the body shape. Women are the curvier sex and trust me we can curve.  There are so many reasons why women curve but that’s a story for another day so women will have bigger torsos with smaller bottoms and  vice versa whereas some are even all the way from the top to the bottom.

Back to the bullies though. If you live in Kenya you have at least heard of #tujuane. I think it becomes a trending topic every Tuesday and don’t men have mean things to say about women. All the time people have to attack the woman. Even the women attack their own but it’s usually mild. But then again we are the ones who put ourselves out there on the chopping board. Why would you get out there and smear your sleazy self on national television?

Anyway, my trigger today is not even from social media. So, I was seated in front of these guys in the bus back home and there was traffic so there was plenty of time to browse the streets. I’m not sure what they were talking about before then but I heard them talk about some “ugly girl” and they happened to mention being dark skinned as one of the factors. I am a very dark skinned girl and I just had to look at whoever was talking and see how much of a Hottie McFly they could be. 

Why would you tell someone about the speck on their face when you have a log in your own eye? First of all you say dark girls are ugly and you are African. Well, all of your family could be light skinned and all, but you know what? Even Beyonce and Tyra are black, Trey songz and JCole too. As long as you have a stroke of dark running through your veins you are black and you are dark. Period. Let others be. Color means nothing. Stop dragging others down your drainage of negative vibes.  

Only the creator can judge the creation since with the hundreds of years of existence no one has been able to make anything close to a living being. Let the beast in the beauty exist without a pointing finger and let the beauty in the beast exist, because it doesn’t have to make sense. It just is. So let it be.

FIGHT THAT BLOCK

 

As cliché as it sounds, hard work pays. Not only that, but also has to have a stroke of smart to make you stand out. Because in this world, there is nothing that hasn’t been done. All people do is make things easier and funkier (who doesn’t want funky).

Before working on anything, people have to have a dream. Anything that you look forward to being be it tomorrow, a month or years. The least you can do for yourself is dream it. Dreaming in this case being visualizing what you want. The most vivid of dreamers have been able to work their steps towards their goal easily. When you choose to dream blurry visions, your walk to destiny will be hell because no matter how many resources you will have, it will never be enough and you will never get there as fast.

This is where the stroke of smart applies. Millionaires and paupers both have 24hours, don’t they? Where do this people get the time to work their way to billions? Personally, I’ve come to hate the Illuminati scapegoat. It could exist yes, but I do not have proof, so I will not sit here hands on the back of my neck and join in the chorus. What I believe is you have to want something so bad for you to have it. And you have to work both hard and smart to get to it.

It takes 10,000 hours of practice for you to get all the mistakes out. If you just sit there, the 10,000 hours will be past the days of your existence. But if you work hard enough it could take you a year and a half or less. See, by the time you get to 3000 hours, your skill is good enough and you can begin to get noticed. People want to know people, who are known, (explains the experience employers look for) very few people want to discover.

 If you will not put yourself out there, you could never be discovered and one day while sitting by the fireplace with your great grandchildren, you will tell them you wanted to be the best entrepreneur in town. The innocent faces will look up and ask why you never got to your dream. You will lie that you were in too deep in the village you never got the exposure when you actually knew every city joint in your youth. You will make the children grow up in self pity when you could’ve made it easier for them to get further into success.

You have to fight that block today as I am fighting my writers block. By all means, I will write even when I will not have the audience. And when I’m at my 10,000 hour, I know I will not be the same person I am at very few hours into my practice. Artiste, doctor, athlete, teacher, businessman, start now and start from the bottom. Work well, on your foundation and do not take shortcuts either. So that if what you are starting will live to be the greatest there has ever been, you will not have a shady and shaky foundation, and your heirs and heiress’ will thank you.

 So, today, get up and fight that block. You better have an “oh, well”, than an “what if”. Learn to be your number one fan even when everybody thinks you are wasting your time. Pat yourself on the back and you will be fine. Like being in a room without a door, bring the block down and free yourself to the greater heights you can achieve.

There is no point in time I will see it fit for people to take their children out for whatever hustles they have to make ends meet. I really hate when children come up to me begging for money. Yes it could be bad, maybe it’s true they haven’t eaten for a day or so, but why doesn’t the parent or whoever the guardian is take it upon themselves to fend for the little souls?

It is a crime against humanity to expose any child to such harsh environments at such a tender age. Children as young as 3 years have mastered the art of begging. They know who has and who doesn’t. Regardless of how much they could learn from any of the experiences it is not a tad fair for anyone at that age to have things so serious in life for them.
Why is it hard for some people to protect the young ones when they are the ones that brought them into this world in the first place? Why is it that a small child is taught how to beg? Why can’t they be taught better things like going to school and becoming a better person tomorrow? If we are looking forward to eliminate poverty from our society, that’s not the way to do it. I may not be an expert but if that child is going to become a better person and help the parent during their old age, there should be a better way of doing things.

The habit is mostly among mothers. I have seen one man too but that's besides the point. It was dark into the night and a boy of about 10 was selling groceries. Shouldn’t he be at home doing homework and getting rest and keeping warm? Most of those children exposed to little money often clouds their ambition and they are brought to think that, that is all that there is to life. They end up dropping from school and becoming a hopeless bunch of citizens.

You do not have to be from a privileged  home or anything but there is a reason an infant is dependent on the parent and that reason  is to be well taken care of. That is what it should be about. Sacrifice. I respect the women who go out of their way to do some hard labour in order to make ends meet. I’ve seen women dig up trenches alongside men. That’s what I call a start.

I have been abused and had stones hurled at me by those very children for not giving them something they asked for. That is exactly how thugs are born. They get tired of rejection, then they hurl things at you then one day they go ahead and mug you in the street and then they get ambitious and become carjackers and thugs and bank robbers. Then we wonder why crime is so high.

 Things need to get nipped in the bud for us to have a better tomorrow and kids need to be kids when they have to be kids. For the adults, take responsibility of your own actions. It’s worth it.

KEEP CALM AND SMILE

There are times in life when we feel so far away from ourselves or our dreams or even our lives. At this point we feel helpless and we feel like we have not achieved a damn thing in our entire lives. Some of us feel like this once in a while, some feel it more often than others and some of us just don’t remember when we felt good about ourselves or what we have/ are going through.

True, things might be a rubble. But we have to learn to see the best in things that happen to us. One day, a young woman missed her usual 6:45am bus to work. She remembers feeling like a failure. She forgot that she caught the bus most times and instead blamed herself for missing the bus. A few minutes later she got into another bus and was on her way to work, although this time, traffic had already built up and she continued beating herself about it. A few miles ahead, she saw a bus that had overturned. She looked closely, and guess what? It was the bus she missed.

The best thing about all of the things we go through is that there is always someone who is at a far messier place or a far better place than you are. Thou shall not compare thyself or want to be like someone else because that is the beginning of all disaster. Don’t you ask yourself why they say (whoever they are) “don’t judge a book by its cover”? People will smile and laugh their hearts out in public but when they are alone or behind closed doors they are hurting and miserable.

Everyone on earth has problems, ask Bill Gates, ask Oprah. Probably those people you look up to are going through worse things than you are. But do you know the secret? People who look happier don’t wear their problems on their sleeves. And it’s also true that if you keep smiling, your brain is tricked into believing you are happy hence your day is better. Does that make sense? But at least you get my point. Nothing has to make sense in this world by the way, if it did where would mathematics go? So don’t even start thinking

So whatever it is you are going through today. Keep calm and smile through it because you are not alone. For the sake of those who look up to you and for the sake of the good times that were and those that will be.

SAY WHAT YOU NEED TO SAY.

I’m about to do something stupid and i know it, but still feel a great urge to do it. You see the way people say that if things happen to you, you should keep them to yourself? Yeah, today i feel like defying those rules too. And blog this (read tell the world).

For the past two or so months i have had someone talking and acting all shady towards me. i have always said to myself “zip it, just zip it Tracy, you are learning how to keep calm and ignore. Be a good student and breath.” It worked, and i was getting somewhere. I was happy with the progress and my achievement so far. And then they pushed me off the cliff and here i am.

You see, that’s not who i am, because anytime someone tries to trample on me or say something insulting i always have a way of letting them know what grounds they are treading on and state the boundaries i don’t let people get to . No, don’t think I’m the fight-instigator type of person or the drama mama, but i don’t let people do things that i disapprove or hurt me or my feelings in any way. I say what i need to say when I’m supposed to say it.

 I wasn’t actually taught that by anyone but i may have picked some of that from my mother. At times i wish i would’ve inherited my dad’s “ignore-button”. This could’ve come in handy when dealing with people with ego’s up there with the sun making them believe they are always right and trying to get your point across will give you migraines for days. I would like to let you know i was bullied and belittled when i went to boarding in primary and i used to cry myself to sleep all the time. If you were not bullied, it’s the kind of feeling you wouldn’t like to experience now or ever. With time i learnt and chose to rise above that fear.

Tell you what? If you have actually been put through some terribly tough times (by people who don’t matter when you look back) and are wondering if those people are being sent your way all the time. The answer is no. You are only as worthy as what you let yourself be. Set your boundaries and always guard those boundaries. Because people with issues will always try to drag you down with them.

I have also learnt that when you sit on something that keeps pushing you down, a time might come when you will erupt like a volcano and nobody will recognize who that person is, including yourself. My moral is, don’t let nobody put you down and say what you need to say, take your stand no matter what; but stay civil and  decent altogether. Better still; know when to fight (for yourself) and when to take flight. When it’s all said and done, don’t let it go to your head, because your opinion is the only one that counts.

Of drivers, passangers and everything in between.

Music. I think I love most genres of music so I would never have a consistent answer all through 5 interviews. And we all know what that would mean for other people out there waiting to pounce on any and everybody who is hang out to dry read “brought to light”. Never mind.

That’s actually the main reason I am so scared of being an out there person. Meme’s will be created and all but I’m hoping that day will come when I get myself out there and have the skin to stand the gutter press and the jobless on social media. My favourite preferences are Rock (not hard rock by any chance- it makes me want to explode), house, kwaito, zouk and Trance. On rock maybe I’d say I’m a little of an emo but to be quite frank I don’t know what I really am. That said and done we get to the point.

We have had the best bands in the history of music and we have loved their music. LMFAO, Swedish house mafia, my chemical romance, destiny’s child, spice girls, pussy cat dolls among others. Normally, in a group there has to be the driver (the main man), and the passengers. The driver usually commands the fame by his/her talent the rest just exist and keep the group going. They will drop a line and do things that will always and forever drag the bands’ name to the tabloids and all that gutter press.

Somewhere along the way, it gets to the drivers nerves because they are the one who do A-X and the others just do Y and Z, so they break up. And as fans we wail and talk but we get over it. Then the main act doesn’t die. They go on and sell solo albums, go on tours and collabo successfully. Nicole Sherzinger, Collo, Adam Lavigne, Beyonce and Kelly, Mel B, Nate Ruess of Fun among others.

However I have to say that in destiny’s child Kelly was the main girl. She just never got the right manager since it always had to be the bosses’ daughter who got the shine. I’m not trying to say B is lazy but I have to admit Kelly has this “gerribility” on a whole new level, B just can’t compete! This, my friend has to be the reason she lately has hit after hit after hit and maintaining a hot bod like she is 18.

When all is said and done, everyone will live their lives and will have to be the one in charge. Breaking it down to school group works, take charge and be a driver or at least the co-driver. Of course chances are people will leave you to do the dirty work- which I have to mention are VERY benefiting at the end, I learnt from experience. Don’t rant and rave but instead Keep calm and take the feather, put it in your cap because it actually is a good thing.

The lucky Break.

Procrastination is a disease and by all means today I have been tossed out of it. To do this post. I am convincing my mind that I can do this before I call it a day. I’m gonna take this moment to ask you to kindly bear with me if this post doesn’t make sense to you but please I’m hoping I drive my point home. Sit on tight.

We all have struggles dreams and ambitions, right? Some of us dream and keep sleeping while there are those among us who dream and work on it to the last detail. No matter how fast or slow one is working on it, it’s commendable because you are lapping that person on the couch. Keep going. I believe everyone has a lucky break; big or small it’s still a lucky break. In my theory, this is when God pays you for how much you have tried; the rejection, sleepless nights, blood, sweat and tears. The more you try, the bigger your break.

If you are wondering what I’m getting to, I’m talking about people like Justin Bieber, Psy, Otonglo et al. (Why we no have women? Ok.) At his 30’s Psy managed to take the world by storm and his YouTube views flew off the charts. Bieber had been in the game for a while, singing in the park and all then he got his big break he was in his teens. Our very own version of a big break David “Otonglo” Owira has become the envy of his peers when he confidently warmed and tickled many doing something he loves.

I’m wondering how many people out there who are on their bum asking “tunaomba sirkali” to bath and cloth them. I do not know anyone who did their work diligently and got all doors slammed on their faces. Of course some doors will slam shut especially when you are starting. How much resilience you put in is the fuel that will get you there. Do you know if we were getting paid to sleep we would find it hard to do that? Trust me, and I’m sure you agree with me.

And then there is the flip side of this lucky break and all. When you get famous but it’s more or less ridicule. People like Rebecca Black, the whole world went ham on that little girl for just trying to do her thing. Fine, I agree that the song hardly made sense, ok, it did but it was like a nursery rhyme on a wasted feel good beat. I didn’t like the song but I still sing along to it especially the bridge where they go “R.B Rebecca Black”. Then we have Susan Mirfat the lady from Tujuane, she trended worldwide just for that scripted show and had meme’s for days.

Most probably when you encounter the flip side of fame you are likely to go into depression as people attack you in the most brutal way possible. Ooh no, I have never wanted to be that girl, I hate when people stare so if that happens to me I’d probably go to my shags and live under a rock where people don’t use internet and probably only 30% have TV and watch it.

My point being, when you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again. Take it positively and bounce back. I mean look at people like Oprah, she got fired from a major TV job and now she could fund that same network for years. And if there is much rejection in the things you do, you are on the right track. because winners lose much more than losers.

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them. -Henry David Thoreau”